Posts Tagged With: Slow Living

You win…! The answer to non competing

 

Our dog trailing a winner

Our dog trailing a winner

Here we go…if you read this I am happy to announce that you win.

You do not have to convince me that you are happier and healthier.  I concede that your kids are the best,  your house is the biggest and you obviously have more money than I will ever have.  You live a fuller  and more meaningful life than I do.  I have an awesome wife,  but believe it or not we do not actually always get along and we fight from time to time.  So it seems that you have a happier marriage as well.

I am not always so certain about religion and faith and God that you have so effortlessly packaged in an easily digestible microwave dinner.  You know God better and understand the universe to a level that I will never achieve.

My dream is that I wake up with friends like yours…but alas I am a dreamless and goalless wanderer and would not fit into a reality like yours.

My only cause of action is submission and to acknowledge defeat.  I have only one request if I may.  You clearly are a better person and ambassador for the human race,  therefor there is no reason to convince me anymore.  I am happy and content to live my simple life in a quiet seaside town.  We can now chat about things that really matter,  like the weather, waves, coffee and wine.

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Compos Mentis 2013

About this time every year every one goes into a frenzy to start writing down things they want to achieve for the new year.  I have come to realize that achievement is somewhat overrated and extremely exhausting!

I have for as long as I can remember penned down things I want for the new year,  and mostly this has equated to “stuff”.  I have nothing against “stuff”,  on the contrary I have one or 2 “stuffs” on my dream list for 2013,  but it is not dominated for the first time by stuff but rather by exploits and I hope exploits that for the first time will make a positive difference in the world and will inspire me!

I am for the first time looking back at the previous year and feeling quite content.  I did not accumulate a massive fortune,  but to be honest I did not really position myself to receive a fortune.  It has taken some getting used to,  this new way of living where my life not only exists to work and then spend that money on what now seems ridiculous purchases.

It has only been 2 years since we exchanged life styles,  and the first year disappeared all to quickly.  2012 was better in the sense that we established some sort of rhythm,  although not smooth yet,  better than the first year.  This year I believe will be the first year where we have adapted completely to this lifestyle and we can focus on new goals and ventures.

The one thing I have learned is that if you want something to happen you have to make it happen (very corny,  but true).  This post would not be complete without a list of endeavors for the year,  and one or 2 stuffs in between.

1:  I want to take more walks with my wife and my dogs on the beach.

2:  I would like to be a better surfer.

3:  I would like to create an app for SME’s that kicks ass in the CRM space.

4:  I want to make furniture.

5:  I want to blog more.

6:  I want to position myself to own a property.

7:  I want to appreciate more what I have.

I am sure there are a thousand other things I would like to do,  but the above 7 seems to make sense and more importantly feels achievable.  I can not achieve what I can not believe.

Awe-ness

Describes it well!

Describes it well!

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Rat Race Retirement

We all dream about the day  we can happily retire in a coastal village.  Greeting everyone as you pass them by,  because they are not just people but “your people” now,  and you know all of their stories because this is small town living.  Your days consists of   waking up without an alarm clock,  going for an early run or walk on the beach (conditions depending,  even a surf).  Going for a coffee at your local coffee shop,  greeting all the locals and chatting away about all that happened in the last 24 hours.  You sit back,  sip your coffee and switch on your laptop….as always looking at the weather / surf reports first to organise your day.

Being “retired” you will also suddenly have time to spend on starting,  or managing a small business (something you have always dreamt of doing).  Most probably a business that will make the world a better place because you are not chasing the illusive golden goose anymore.

I read a book a couple of years ago by Tim Ferris entitled the 4 hour work week.  This book set in motion what is now large aspects of my life.  I have always believed that living and enjoying life was possible,  and not only when we reach the age of 60 (probably more like 75 these days).

Reading motivational books (other people’s success stories) is usually something that inspires immediately,  wears of in 30 minutes and pretty soon you are back to thinking that some are just so damn lucky to live the way they do.  My “lucky break” came when I was retrenched:)  Nothing says ‘howzit’ (South African slang for an emphasized hello) better than a 100% pay cut.

Was the retrenchment my big shift…who knows.  What I do know 4 years later is that

1:  Life is shorter than we think.

2:  To much worry will kill you.

3:  Have faith in the “universe”,  others and yourself.

4:  Interact with nature.

5:  If your gut tells you to be good to others,  act on it! (Smiling counts)

I have to this day not made millions (I am not saying I won’t:)  But I wake up almost every morning without an alarm clock.  I go for a run / or a surf most mornings.  I go to my favorite coffee shop most days and greet locals I have not seen for 24 hours.  I sit back,  take my first sip of coffee and turn on my laptop.  I open my mail client,  but before I scan my inbox and sneak a peek at the weather charts,  I close my eyes and with the smell of coffee and the promise of a great day I quote Jerry,  “I love my wife and I love my life”.

I wish you my kind of happiness (most days).

One of my “office” locations

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act on inspiration and enjoy the ride

The problem with good quotes and sayings are that they almost always seem “corny” and dare I say “fake”.  I am not 100% sure what the purpose of this blog is,  but I have 2 things in mind.

1:  I would like to inspire other people to live a slower life and a life where you decide what happens and when it happens on a daily basis.

2:  I would like other like-minded people to inspire me in the way they live their lives on a day-to-day basis.  I want substance behind the text ,  in the same way I hope to add “realness” to my writing.

There would be very little point in writing ‘fiction’ when it comes down to the actual job of living.  And this I think is what a lot of us are doing at the moment (me included!)  We live a fictional life,  in our minds it sounds awesome but we hardly ever get further than the mental projection of what we hope and dream about.  With my ramblings I hope to transfer my mind to paper (interweb:) and then somehow be inspired to take my “text” and make it real.

Back to the ‘corny’ quote.  For the record,  this is actually an original quote (unfortunately not mine,  but I will take some credit because I was part of the discussion where it was born).  This quote belongs to my best friend and long-suffering business partner.  We are constantly making decisions about how we want to live our lives as individuals and as families and it was uttered in one of those long asynchronous gchat sessions.

I wish I can say I live by this quote 100%.  Although I don’t fully yet,  sometimes when this quote presents itself in the ‘real’ world  I realize that opportunity is knocking (sometimes screaming and kicking me in the knee) and usually when I act on it,  it leads to something,  or opens another road less travelled which causes me to enjoy the ride.  It might seem that I am a carefree techno hippie,  but despite my so-called ‘enlightenment’,  I worry and fret about the dumbest things I have no control over (Mostly money.  Either the protection of the little I have,  or how to get more so I can worry further about protecting it:)

Admittedly I am sometimes scared of inspiration,  or more accurately the failure of said inspiration.  How many times have we not acted on something because we just do not have the power to live with another failure.  Maybe the inspiration was just an opportunity to enjoy the ride.

We are so competition driven that ‘inspiration’ has a difficult job in inspiring.  I see this every day in my own life.  I spend a lot of time in the ocean and as my surfing journey progresses I catch myself often looking at other surfers and being angry at myself for not being on the same skill level.  Imagine this…I am in the water,  the sun is setting,  whales and dolphins swim les than 10m from me and I am angry because I am not as good as other surfers.

How many priceless opportunities do we miss because we are driven to succeed instead of driving with the top down,  wind in our hair and being inspired by the joy of the ride.

This picture was taken this morning and this is how a Monday should start:)

AWE-ness

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